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I am the very model of a modern metasexual

September 2, 2014


A theory:
The defining trait of the 21st century gay male is not hypersexuality so much as metasexuality … a single-minded focus on managing the diverse digital platforms that generate sexuality, rather than on sexuality itself.


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  1. September 24, 2014

    I wonder how many platforms guys are managing identities across. It is certainly true that the expectations seem to differ (Grindr, Scruff, Adam4Adam, Dudes Nudes, Jack’d, Hornet, Tinder…maybe the poles are Recon and OKCupid?).

    I have the sense that people gravitate to one or maybe two. Would that contradict your hypothesis. Or would it just be “even with a single app, there’s still a lot of work being done in the management of the app”?

    What does it mean to manage a platform? Curating pics and access to pics is one piece. Blocking and favoriting. When do conversations count as platform management? If two guys manage to hook up with just, say, 5 messages exchanged, do they count as really being focused on sexuality? Or are they virtuoso metasexuals? Or is it actually totally different activities that are required to answer that kind of question?

  2. Aaron #
    May 12, 2015

    If there is a transition I think it’s from the fetishisation of the other to the fetishisation of the self. It seems a natural conclusion of consumer culture; one makes oneself the consumer *and* the product in a lovely closed loop.

    Gay apps seem less modes of cruising than they are of display. I chatted to a guy on Grindr the other day who not only linked to his instagram account (featuring only shots of himself in underwear) but also his twitter account. Every tweet was also a picture of himself in underwear.

    He did look good in underwear.

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